It’s 2017, and online dating has become the next big thing. Nigerians have finally opened up to finding true love in cyberspace! From Zoosk to Badoo, a number of online dating sites have become prominent among Nigerians. But there is no doubt that the prominent ones are the almighty Facebook, Twitter, and more recently Tinder. But the horror stories I hear about online dating are both scary and shocking. I guess I was just lucky because I found love online!
So I was an IJGB (for those who don’t know what it means, it’s a slang for those who just moved back from Obodo Oyibo) and was looking for cute hunks to take me out and show me around Lagos. My friend tells me “you better join Tinder. Plenty fine guys are there oh.” So I’m like “really? Tinder in Lagos?” But hey, it’s worth a try so I register for Tinder. This guy “super likes” me and I swipe right and the rest is history. I, in my little bubble, thought this was a common experience for most tinder users. After spending a year in Lagos, I can definitely say I this is not the case.
First of all, the theory that most Lekki girls on tinder are runs, girls, aka ashewos aka oloshos is not a rumor. It’s a fact. I’ve seen physical evidence as I have come across a male friend’s tinder account and all the girls would ask in the chat is “how much?” or “50k for one night.” It’s gotten so bad that a male tinder user wrote an article on how to keep runs girls away from your tinder account if you’re looking for true love or genuine dating.
My friend also told me the story of one of her friends who used it. According to my friend, the lady met the guy who apparently said he lived in London, and was visiting Lagos soon. So he asked her if she wanted him to buy her any clothes. She replied in the affirmative and then he said he was gonna come to Lagos the following week. He then tells her he won’t be able to make it until a week after due to unavoidable circumstances but he was gonna send her stuff to her.
She got to the airport to pick up the cargo, only to discover that the guy wanted to use her as a decoy to transport cocaine to Nigeria. She was arrested at the airport as the cocaine came in her name and was held by the NDLEA. To say I was shocked is an understatement. Another lady claimed that she was almost scammed (phew!) on Tinder TWICE!
There have been other not-so-scary tinder stories as well, like mine (duh) and this lady whose Tinder experience wasn’t as gruesome as the ones I have come across. Let’s talk. What’s your opinion on online dating? Do you think it’s something you can do? Have you done it? What was your experience like?